Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. The day is an opportunity to celebrate your love and affection for your ‘other’ half in a romantic way. Thankfully, I don’t need to worry that my husband will buy me chocolates; we usually go to the Mexican restaurant where we had our first date for our Valentine’s Day dinner. We get so busy with our work and family that this is our time to make a date and spend some time talking, laughing, and just focusing on each other.
Everyone has different priorities in life. You create your priorities based on your life experiences, and you will make time for what is important to you.
At any given moment, those priorities change from day-to-day, month-to-month and year-to-year. Our priorities can change because of a diagnosis from a doctor, a job, a relationship change, an accident, etc.
When you choose to make changes in your life, your priorities are still there, but they may be re-arranged in the short term to reach a new goal.
So many of us tend to put the needs of others before our own. When we continue to take care of others and neglect ourselves, without even knowing, our own health and well-being will deteriorate. This only means there is less of us left to look after our loved ones.
Let Go of Negative Thoughts
When you are ready, you can choose to let go of negative thought patterns such as:
- I’m a busy person so I don’t have time to prep meals and attend all of my workouts.
- I’m someone who enjoys my indulgences and I don’t want to eat bland vegetables all the time.
- I’m the one who takes care of everyone else and I just can’t justify putting myself first.
Create Positive Thoughts
Try to incorporate thoughts that empower your decisions positively such as:
- I’m someone who enjoys my indulgences and by adding healthier choices to what I eat, I’m finding new ways to enjoy food in a more balanced way.
- I’m the one who takes care of everyone else, so I cannot afford to not take care of myself first.
Just like they say on airplanes, you have to put on your own oxygen mask first, before helping others. If you’re constantly struggling to be your best self, how can you help those you care about to be their best selves?
To make it easier, start by changing one thing at a time. Try it out. Feel it. Struggle. Overcome and try adding something else. You don’t have to be perfect to have progress.
Baby steps forward are still steps in the right direction
Hold yourself to your new goals by prioritizing the things that are the most important to you. Get a partner, use an accountability app or schedule it on a calendar. Make a date to accomplish your new goal, create a plan and follow through!
Plan ahead. If skipping breakfast is a challenge for you, why not prepare a grab-and-go breakfast in advance as part of a Sunday ritual? This habit will make sure you have no excuses not to eat breakfast throughout the week. Do you get hungry midday? Make portable snacks that will fit in your bag. Before I head out the door, I love grabbing protein bars, mixed nuts, Greek yogurt topped with granola and even grabbing cut-up fruits or veggies.
Keep your better choice foods front and centre by having them ready so they are easy to grab. Cut your veggies ahead of time and store them in clear containers so you can easily see them every time you open the fridge. I like to add my favourite seasonings to Greek yogurt to create my own dips for added protein!
All of your priorities are important and you need to make time for them, but remember you may not be able to accomplish all your goals at once. However, if your priorities are in order, the important things will get done. It’s okay to give yourself permission to do what is manageable for you. If it means only accomplishing a couple of things at a time, that’s okay. You are not in a race. You will reach your goal as long as each day you do a little better than yesterday. It doesn’t matter about the speed as long as you are making time for you.